When I was younger my grandmothers used to watch me after school. One time when I was sick my Nana told me the 24 hour rule. The rule is that you’re only allowed to sit on the couch doing nothing for one day. Then you have to get up and carry on.
So why am I sharing this? I’ve started to apply this to when things aren’t going so well too. If you do bad on a test you deserve your 24 hour mourning period but at that point there is nothing you can do. You can’t go back and change how you studied, what you studied, or the answers you filled in. So why dwell on it?
Say you don’t get the work study job you really wanted? There’s more out there! I promise there is going to be something else out there. From my personal experience I have found that every time something has not worked out for me in the way I wanted I end up getting something even better in the long run.
I’ve definitely mentioned it before but it is so important to keep a positive state of mind going into anything. If you go into your next job interview with the feeling of not being good enough it’s going to show in your body language. If you’re constantly thinking you’re not going to be good enough, your interviewer is going to see you in the same light.
So give yourself 24 hours, your feelings are valid but don’t let yourself dwell on it! You can still be in your feelings after 24 hours you just can’t let your negative thoughts consume you!
Let me know how you shake off any bad juju in the comments!
Before I went back to school I took a solo trip to Boston so I just wanted to let you guys know what I was up to!
So I took the commuter rail in and got off at the Jersey Street stop.
Then I headed to the Museum of Fine Arts. My main goal of the day was to get Lilly Pulitzer shoes for my graduation but I love exploring museums so that was my first stop.
The MFA was amazing! They had so many interesting exhibits but my favorite was all of the Egyptian stuff. I started and ended my day in two different Egyptian sections. Looking back on it, I probably should have grabbed a map but I had so much fun just wandering around.
The most amazing thing about the way they set up the museum is how immersive it is. The ancient worlds sections looked like you were in an Egyptian tomb, you were able to step in a replica at one point, and they also had a reconstructed old New England house!
I also was able to stop by the Ansel Adams exhibit which was so amazing! I discovered one artist who takes pictures in reflections but I am completely blanking on their name!
After spending four hours wandering the hallways I still had so many different sections to explore but I set my sights on my new shoes.
If you haven’t been to Newbury Street you are missing out. It’s a bunch of stores that I hope one day I can afford all on one street! My first stop was to pick up these shoes that I cannot wait to show you!
Next I went to Trident Books on the complete other side of Newbury Street to pick up a book from their “Blind Date” with a Book section. This is a really interesting concept where they cover the books and draw pictures on the cover so that you have no idea what you are getting yourself into.
At this point in the day I was craving some pizza. Leaving Newbury Street behind me I headed to Eataly, and ate at their Pasta&Pizza restaurant. It was such a good margherita pizza! And I couldn’t go to Eataly without getting dessert so I got this amazing trio dessert!
After that it was time to catch the train and head home! I hope you enjoyed reading about another day in Boston, there’s so much to do there that every day is a new adventure!
Here is this week’s Friday Faves! This week is all about back to school! Let me know what your campus must haves are in the comments! Feel free to click on the link above which will take you to any of the things I mentioned!
2018 has been a huge year for me and I am so thankful for all of the lessons I learned this year. I am so ready to take everything I have learned in order to make 2019 the Year of Marissa!
If you didn’t understand that reference I ask that you shut your laptop immediately and start watching reruns of The Middle on ABC. It’s one of my favorite TV shows and if you didn’t already know… I am Sue Heck.
Now that you’ve binged watched all 9 seasons of The Middle let’s get on with the lessons I’ve learned…
Lesson 1: Take time for yourself.
This is something that I have struggled with so much this year and will probably continue to struggle with it in the upcoming year. But it is so important to schedule time for yourself every day. And yes, I said schedule it or else it’s going to get pushed to the bottom of the to do list.
One of the best ways I’ve been able to incorporate this into my studying is to use the Focus Keeper app. It keeps you on task for 25 minutes and gives you a five minute break. After four rounds of staying on task it gives you a longer 25 minute break.
Another way I’ve born able to incorporate “me time” into my everyday routine is to read every morning for 10-20 minutes. Instead of getting up and scrolling through instagram, I read instead!
You also need to plan time for yourself every week in a bigger way! Whether it’s having a movie night with my roommates or going out to dinner with some of my classmates after a huge test it’s so important to have ways to reward yourself for all the hard work you’re putting in.
Lesson 2: Change your perspective.
This is something I only started doing a month before the semester ended but it has definitely changed the way I think about things. There are always things we think we should be doing to feel the most prepared and that often leaves us feeling inadequate. Now I make two lists of things for the day: things I need to get done and things that would benefit me if I could do them today. By avoiding saying I should do this and should do that ad replacing it with things I have to do today and things that would benefit me I avoid the daunting laundry list of things that if I don’t finish them I will end up feeling overwhelmed.
This next one is one I say in someone’s Instagram story that I plan on using this semester. Replace why is this happening to me with what is this trying to teach me?
I firmly believe that by changing the way you look at things, the things you look at change (Wayne Dyer) and I will share any other ways to change your internal dialogue with you as I come across them!
Lesson 3: Believe in yourself.
If I have learned one test taking strategy this semester it is to go into the exam confidently. I performed way better on the five finals I had in six days at the end of the semester than the seven exams I had in seven weeks during the school year.
During our seven weeks of exams, I constantly felt like I wasn’t prepared. I just took a test and then I only had a few days to go through it all again, it seemed never ending. I constantly felt defeated and I was not ready to take whatever test that week entailed, I was caught up in the “should have done this, should have done that” game. During finals I had to adjust my studying pattern, I knew I wouldn’t have the time I thought was adequate because we were squeezing all of these tests into a shorter amount of time. Between accepting that there wasn’t enough time in a day, and realizing I had prepared myself to the best of my ability I went into these tests much more confidently and it paid off!
Another thing is to not compare yourself to others. In an age where social media is everything this is so much easier said than done. When I was asking an upperclassman for advice we were talking about grades and she asked me if I tole people the numbers I got and I said well yeah we always talk about the numbers (pretty much down to the decimal point) when the grades are released. And she told me there’s nothing wrong with talking about how well you’re doing or if you’re struggling in a class but forget about the numbers. In 2021 it won’t matter what I got in each class (as long as it’s above an 83!) and it won’t matter what my class rank is, I’ll still be able to call myself a doctor.
I hope you enjoyed a look into my 2018 and how I’m going to carry those lessons into 2019! One way I am going to stay mindful of these things so I don’t get caught up in all of the stress is to print these three things out and keep them above my desk.
I’m also going to be doing a goal board with my mom before I head back to school so I will keep you updated on that. 2019 is going to be such a big year for me: in May I’ll be graduating and in September I’m going to be moving into an off campus house I’m renting! This next semester is going to be full of a ton of lasts but I can’t wait to see where this year takes me! Let me know what you are leaving in 2018 and what you have to look forward to in 2019!
I wanted to share a super simple recipe with you guys if you need a last minute thing to bring to a New Year’s Eve party! I made Christmas Crack as a gift for my grandmothers this year but switch out the Christmas bow for silver or gold ribbon and you are all set to ring in the New Year!
Preheat the oven to 350 F
Cover your jelly roll pan (9×13) with aluminum foil. You can spray the aluminum foil with cooking spray to make your life a little easier but I’ve never had trouble peeling it off. Line the tray with saltine crackers.
Start with melting butter on medium heat. Once the butter is melted, mix the butter and sugar in a pot on medium heat. Boil for 3-5 minutes. Keep stirring until it has thickened. You can add 1 teaspoon of vanilla extract here!
Pour the mixture evenly over the saltines. Make sure it reaches the edges!
Bake for 5-10 minutes. Then remove from the oven.
Cover the crackers with chocolate chips. Give the chocolate chips a few minutes to melt and then you can spread to cover the top! Once you’ve spread the chocolate leave in the fridge for at least an hour to cool.
Step 7: Optional
Break up and serve in a mason jar with a cute bow!
I can’t believe it’s that time of year already! This is one of the most exciting times of years for college kids, it’s almost time to reunite with your best friends for another year of fun! I wanted to write a post about my back to school necessities. Whether you are an incoming freshman or you’re like me coming back for year four, this post is for you!
Flashcards: my lifesaver! I would not be where I am today without flashcards. While I do still use physical flashcards make sure you check out Quizlet! It’s an online flashcard website where you can make your own cards or use another user’s. My favorite thing about Quizlet is the learn feature, it really helped me out in my Healthcare Language class as well as some of my summer classes.
Colored pens: I never thought I would be a colored pen person. While I do like keeping my agenda as organized and thorough as can be, I never liked the idea that I could be writing notes, accidentally use the wrong color, and then have to start all over again! Over the summer I bought some just to try and they ended up being so helpful! I personally find them the most beneficial when I’m comparing things or writing out pros and cons because I can associate different topics with different colors.
Sticky notes: the perfect little reminders! I have sticky notes of all shapes and sizes to make myself to do lists. You can fins these all over my agenda, laptop, desk…
A small stapler: Toto we’re not in high school anymore! There are no longer staplers in every room, I’ve learned this the heard way as I’ve made my way to the Rehab&Disabilities Studies office multiple times when I need to staple before I turn a paper in. By getting a smaller stapler you can throw it in your backpack so that if you reprint your essay/case report/lab report last minute you can staple it!
Packets of tissues: huge shoutout to my roommate Christine on this one! I never remember to buy the travel packs of tissues but she always has some on hand for when my nose will not stop running.
An agenda: an absolute must. I could not survive without my Lilly agenda. I’ve been using agendas since the fourth grade when our school handed them out and I have never looked back. I would be running around like crazy if I did not have all of my assignments and meetings written down.
A white board: another must. My summer roommates and I had a whiteboard in our living room that served as a weekly to do list where we could reading assignments, tests, and any special activities we had that week. Then we would each place a check mark next to whatever we had finished and once there were four check marks we could erase it! This whiteboard also served as an additional study tool when we would have people over, One person would “lead” the group and write down important information from a slide set. Because our summer semester was short I used my own white board to write a checklist of all the things we had due over the course of 8 weeks. While this only worked because it was such a short semester, you could modify it to be one month!
Crossing off that Foundations Exam 3 had to be the most satisfying thing!
The most exciting part of moving in to college! Getting to decorate your room!
Fun pillows: this is my favorite part as I absolutely love pillows!
Fairy lights: you will find this in practically every college girl’s room! There is nothing better than relaxing at the end of the day with the main light off and the fairy lights in full effect. It’s the perfect atmosphere to curl up with a book or binge on some Netflix.
Decorative boxes: I personally need all the storage I can get and I found the cutest ones at Michael’s last year! I label each box with sticky notes (see, they are a necessity!) and I store extra office supplies, medicine, winter hats/gloves, and my pay stubs in them!
Photos: your dorm is your home and you need to make it feel that way! Every year I buy a new strand of lights with paper clips, print out some of my favorite photos from the previous year, and hand them around my room. Here is the one I bought from Nordstrom Rack!
Seasonal decorations: again your dorm is your home! Whether it’s a Halloween door decorating contest (I won that my freshman year!) or a Christmas tree made of lights, there’s no better way to get in the holiday spirit.
While our apartment did not have a real Christmas tree I loved our little light tree and I’m hoping we do that again this year!
I hope this was helpful in making your packing list! Let me know what you cannot leave at home in the comments!
So if you read my post about having to wear professional clothing to class (you can read it here if you missed it!), you know that I am now in physical therapy school!
I have just finished my first week as a doctoral student (so crazy that I can call myself that!) so I wanted to share some things that I have learned from this week as well as orientation. While I wrote these from my experience geared to my program, I believe they can be applied to any college (or high school experience).
First up is find your people. Now I have an advantage because my program is 3+3 so I already knew most of my cohort but this is something I am still actively doing. This is a journey you can’t do alone, this is a whole new world and your tests are more than just recall (more to come on this a little later) so you need to find your study groups. Then you need to find the group that you can live with. You also need to find the people you can have fun with. Now since I have been in school for a week and a half now I can’t speak on this personally but advice I’ve gotten from upperclassmen says that these do not have to be the same people. In fact, they suggest that the people you live with are people you study with and are not your best friends. You will be in class with these people all day every day, and sometimes tensions rise when you spend that much time with people.
The classes are harder: the teachers no longer change the slides to lay terminology, the content is challenging, the books can be dense and dry, and last but not least you actually have to do the readings. While you may not have to do all the readings you will have to read more than you did in undergrad, I think I’ve already read 5 articles and it has been a week.
The stakes are higher. In my program, and most programs at the graduate level, I am allowed to get two grades of a B- or lower. That’s right, only two. This is not just to make your life painful, it is to make sure you know what you are supposed to know. When I graduate I am supposed to be able to evaluate patients and treat them based on what I believe the problem is. While I’m sure I will make a few mistakes, I can’t be making wrong decisions on everyone I see.
Have fun! The counseling center came to speak to us during orientation and one of the things they told us was to make sure to take time for ourselves. My friends the year above me told me make sure I schedule sometime for Netflix every once in a while and to make sure I get to the gym. In February I went to Boston for a dance conference and I met a physical therapist who was a dancer and now works with dancers and when I asked her how to survive PT school she told me make sure to save time for dance. Can you guess why this is a common theme? You would go crazy if school was your only focus! While this is my biggest priority at the moment, it cannot be my whole life or I would go insane. Make sure to save time for what you love!
I hope you found this post useful and can apply it to wherever you are in your academic career!
College is different than high school in so many ways, one of the biggest differences is in study habits. In high school I procrastinated, I mean who doesn’t. In college my motto is to stay ahead of the game. I always start working on assignments as soon as I get them because you’ve heard it before and you’ll hear it again: cramming doesn’t work! Even if you cram and are able to get an A on your assignment I doubt you’ll be able to recall that information in the future.
Actually learn it…
This is a continuation of the cramming idea, learning the material makes your life so much easier. I’m going to school to become a physical therapist. Part of our curriculum is human anatomy and physiology as undergrads and then clinical anatomy as grad students. human A&P is much like clinical in that in the fall semester you have two practicals: one of bones and one on muscles. The clinical one is a little more in depth but it’s not like the names of the bones change. One of the biggest reasons I started weeks in advance studying for my practicals last year because this is information I’m going to need for the rest of my life. Who wants a physical therapist that has no idea what muscles attach to which bones? All that studying will also pay off when it comes time for me to take clinical anatomy, I won’t have to waste time relearning all the origins and insertions, I’ll just have to do a little recall.
Study as if you have a cheat sheet…
If you had one piece of paper to take with you into a test what would you put on it. I think this is such a great way to study because it gets you to look at the key ideas as well as the things you don’t know as well. I would advise you to make this sheet a few days in advance so that in addition to studying your notes you have a simplified version you can take with you and glance at in between classes.
I know this one isn’t for everyone but I love flashcards. They’re great for learning vocabulary words and they are also super easy to carry around with you for studying in between classes.
Apply it to your life…
This is one that I’m going to relate to anatomy as well. Sometimes if I could not remember what a muscle did for the life of me I would think of a dance move that fit with that muscle’s action. The most memorable one I used was that the sartorius muscle in the muscle used for figure 4s (a stretch we did when I ran cross country/track in high school) or a pirouette in dance.
Second semester in college is truly a beautiful thing. This is my first time in the past three years that I do not carry over any classes into the spring. That means no biology II, chemistry II, anatomy II, or physics II; I am starting this semester on a completely new page.
Personally I think of each new semester as a time to set resolutions, and it just so happens that spring semester coincides with the biggest time to make resolutions. If you are like me and you like setting resolutions, you get two chances a semester to stop and think about your goals for the next 16 weeks. One of my resolutions this semester: get all As!
If you are like me and have no part II classes, there are no expectations going into this semester besides your own! You can’t tell yourself oh you got an A last semester so you have to do that again, or on the flip side you can’t beat yourself up for getting a B and telling yourself you need to step your game up.
If you are like me during my freshman and sophomore year remember: college is not like high school! Your grades from last semester do not average in with this semester to make a final grade. Even if it’s the same class you still have a brand new start! You have the advantage of knowing what the class set up/teaching style is without having to bring in any grades.
You also have the opportunity to start new clubs and activities in the second semester. Although I’m sure any club would be happy to have you drop in during a semester it can be less intimidating to start when you know it’s likely you won’t be the only new person in the room.
If you’re looking for tips to stay organized this semester check out my tips here!